Events

The Smart Erotica Program®

July 12 y 13, 2019

Location: Hyatt Miami



Are You Ready for Smart Erotica?

A Soul Mate is someone we feel profoundly connected, “as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts,”? “ but rather a divine grace.”? "This kind of relationship is so important to the soul that many have said there is nothing more precious in life”. Thomas Moore, Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship

Today, couples have choices about how to live their lives together as partners. It IS possible to be passionate lovers, best friends, enjoy erotic experiences and live consistent with your highest values – IF, you know what conversations to have and what questions to ask to get there.

We call it “Smart Erotica: The Modern Couples Playbook”, a program and process that teaches, coaches and facilitates the most important conversations intimate partners can have about love, sex, eroticism, intimacy and deep friendship.

What is the Smart Erotica Program®?

The Smart Erotica Program® is the modern couple’s playbook for bringing emotional intelligence and sensual design into your sexual and erotic life together. The program “maps” the “7 Conversations” of the world’s only science-based erotic intimacy relationship assessment, the Lifestyle Inventory Check-Up® (LIC), and guides you and your partner through a process where the most important questions to enhance, enrich and protect your relationship on the erotic journey get answered.

Why is Smart Erotica Important to Your Relationship?

There’s a smart way and a less smart way to do anything – would you agree? Love and intimacy are arguably, the most important distinguishing elements of a healthy relationship, and yet for many of us, it is very hard to talk openly about, and intelligently, address and answer the complex discussions that a healthy sexual and erotic life together offers couples.

The Smart Erotica Program® empowers you to ask and answer the most important and sensitive questions a couple must ask themselves to have a fulfilling intimate life together. The Smart Erotica Program® will:

• Shorten your learning curve in the areas of love, sex, eroticism and intimacy.

• Coach you in a relationship framework for “how-to” have the “right” conversation in the “right” way.

• Facilitate a new ability to navigate the delicate balance between love, sex, eroticism and sensuality with a communication tool kit to empower you.

• Achieve alignment around your shared desires, needs, and fantasies while establishing the boundaries, agreements, rituals and routines to anchor them to your values as a couple.

How will you and your Partner Benefit from the Smart Erotica Program®?

The Smart Erotica Program® removes the guesswork of trial and error and streamlines the communication process by identifying and helping you answer the most important questions couples need to ask themselves:

• Can you define love, sex, passion, and play on your own terms and bring them to life in your relationship?

• How do we explore and stretch our boundaries while enriching, not threatening our primary relationship?

• What is the best way to balance novelty, variety and eroticism with exclusivity, boundaries and accountability to each other?

The program is designed around the “7 Conversations of the LIC" where you and your partner take your results of the assessment and identify what areas are most important for you to focus on. Then, with expert coaching and teaching on the art and science of love from Dr. Jay and Liseth, you will be coach on how to have those conversations.

The LIC guides you through a series of dialogues that include:

1. Alignment

2. Unfiltered Communication

3. Conflict

4. Sexuality vs. Eroticism

5. Boundaries

6. Agreements

7. Rituals & Routines

You and your partner will leave the Smart Erotica Program aligned, clear, and energized around how to design the sexual, erotic and intimate relationship of yor dreams!

$245.00 | per couple

Secrets of Relationship Mastery

2-day Soul Mates For Life Program

Level 1

August 03-04, 2019

Location: Hyatt Miami



Why the Soul-Mates For Life Program?

Have you ever wondered, “Is there more that’s possible for my relationship”?  “Is this the best it gets”?  “Am I with the right partner or have I settled”?  “Do I have to lower my standards or can I get my needs met”?  “Why do we argue so much”?  “Can we get back that ‘loving feeling’ again”?

The Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program is a powerful relationship transformation experience designed to give you the answers to these and many other questions in a unique 2-day relationship development process for people serious about having an extraordinary relationship – a Soul-Mate for Life.

Soul Mates Are Created, Not Found

Finding a partner and having a great relationship doesn’t just happen.  It’s not about luck, “falling in love”, or even “finding that one and only – my soul mate”.  That’s the stuff of Hollywood fiction.  

True love, the kind that Soul-Mates are made of, is never about “falling” into anything; it’s about choosing to learn how to love the partner you are with in ways that touch and connect with their soul.

Soul Mates are created, not found – this quality of love is NOT ABOUT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON, it’s always about BECOMING THE RIGHT PERSON capable of loving your partner.

If you are in a relationship, there will be issues.  In fact, the presence of conflict ISN’T a problem (it’s a sign of life!) but the way you deal with that conflict (or avoid it) and whether or not you know how to repair conflict when it occurs and does damage, CAN BE a problem.

The question is how prepared are you to positively address the issues that come with being in a relationship?  

Do you have the tools, skills, and strategies to use the inevitable problems that come with loving another person and can you CREATE the conditions within your relationship that make Soul-Mating possible?

This is EXACTLY what we will teach you in the Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program. 

So, what’s the real problem in relationships today?

There are two fundamental problems in love and relationship today:

First, far too often, people really don’t know what love is so they don’t know “how to” truly love their partner, and second, people are not asking the right questions so they’re confused often in the wrong conversation about the wrong issues in the wrong way at the wrong time.

The result?

Lot’s of pain, dissatisfaction, hurt and anger and more than half of all marriages ending in divorce. 

The Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program will teach you “how to” love and “how to” BECOME a person capable of making a Soul-Mate relationship happen in your daily life together. 

Relationship Mastery # 1 Principle

You see, love is something we express in the vocabulary of ACTION (What I DO to make love happen), not language (What I say I will do to show that I love you).   Love is a verb. It’s not a feeling you get from another person by “finding the right one”; it’s an experience you create as a result of DEEDS YOU DO for another person who you commit to love and contribute something to.

This is one of dozens of transformational distinctions you will learn in the Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program along with the tools, skills and strategies to design a relationship of your choosing, one you are passionate about and motivated to continually invest time and energy in. 

The questions we ask, not the circumstances we are in, DETERMINE the quality of the relationship we have.  In the Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program we ask and answer the most important relationship questions facing couples today:

  • Can people change their relationships from boring, routine and “I want out” to true love and fulfillment?
  • What are the keys to a happy, fulfilling and erotically charged relationship?
  • What’s the difference between satisfied and dissatisfied couples and what are they doing (or not doing) that make them that way?
  • What if it were possible to get clear about the “real issue” and arrive at the real truth about what’s working or not working in your relationship?
  • Is it really possible to be Soul-Mates For Life?
  • Who must I BECOME and what must I DO to HAVE the quality of relationship I say I am committed to?  (versus “how must my partner change to have …”)
  • How do we communicate effectively about the real issues we struggle with and not do damage, but repair and bond deeper by using conflict positively?
  • How do we manage all the demands of jobs, kids, friends and life demands and still have time for a fulfilling relationship?
  • Am I with the right partner or did I make a mistake?  What do I do about that if I discover it’s all wrong?

The Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program is a science-based program with a tried and tested methodology informed by the latest research on what makes a marriage exceptional and last for a lifetime.

Today, there is no longer a question about what it takes to have an extraordinary relationship.Decades of research on what makes a relationship succeed or fail informs us of what the “secrets of mastery” are and they are available to everyone and anyone who is willing to learn them. 

So, the real question to ask is this:  How important is your relationship to you?  Is your relationship worth two days of time and less money than what people spend on Starbucks in a month?  

We have taken decades of psychological science, clinical work with couples, practical wisdom and hard earned lessons from our own relationship journey and to distill transformational lessons into a powerful 2-day relationship enrichment program that can take a couple from where they are to anywhere they choose to go with our coaching and tool box. 

We invite you to step in to a new possibility, to create a Soul-Mate relationship For Life!

Please join us for our next Soul-Mates For Life:  Secrets of Relationship Mastery program that will take place in Miami, Fl on:

August 3-4, 2019

This is our most economical relationship enrichment program offering with a lot of bang for your investment dollar. Join us in miami and design a relationship of your dreams 

$595.00 | per couple


Private Relationship Retreats




We believe each couple is actually the expert on their relationship - you know your situation better than anyone else. But you're actually the one LEAST LIKELY to see how to resolve it. It's not that you're not smart or insightful; you're simply TOO CLOSE to see your relationship clearly.

That’s where working in a focused and more intensive manner with professional coaches comes into play. When you’re “on the court” of your relationship, it’s impossible to see all of the pieces, and importantly, what needs to be done differently to make your relationship all it can be.

Professional Coaching shortens your learning curve, accelerates your growth trajectory and gets you to outcomes and results quickly.

Success leaves clues and always has requirements. We know those clues and understand those requirements. Whatever circumstances you’re dealing with, and regardless of the outcomes you are after, we’ve seen it, helped resolve them and have found solutions for it many times over 25 years of working with thousands of couples. If you want a great outcome you go to people who are experts, not people who have something to sell you and have little experience in producing results.

Your marriage is not something to play around with as you try to figure out how to put the pieces of your relationship back together or take your relationship to a new level that makes it unbreakable. It is wisdom to get sound counsel and coaching based on EXPERIENCE-BASED on WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS with real couples.

There are two ways you can work with us for your Private Relationship Retreat:

Intensive House-Call Option

We make “house calls”, which means we travel as a coaching team (both Dr. Jay & Liseth) to your location and lead you and your partner through a full-day or multi-day intensive coaching process designed to facilitate rapid and real results. This is not for everyone but is highly effective for couples who value their privacy, put a premium on their time and prefer a more concentrated immersive relationship development experience.

This is a transformational intervention that is designed for either problem situations that need immediate attention and change or highly committed couples interested in investing in taking their relationship to new heights of Soul-Mating and value their time such that a customized immersion event is ideal for their lifestyle.

We can meet at your home, at a hotel suite near your local airport, or any mutually agreed upon site.

This is a highly customized immersion-coaching program that lasts 7-10 hours per day depending on the issues and desired outcomes. It includes a comprehensive science-based Relationship Wellness Assessment, a customized coaching plan that will guide our work together, individual and joint sessions as well as focused teaching from our highly successful Soul-Mates For Life program curriculum.

We work globally with couples and can accommodate many diverse schedules and situations. For the logistical planning, in the United States, Canada, and South Americas we require at least a 2-day booking. Outside the Americas booked time depends on flight schedules. For example, the United Kingdom is a 3-day booking (2 day in session). Australia is a 4-day booking (2 day in session).


Intensive In-House Option

Have you ever thought about combining a romantic weekend getaway with a high quality and substantive relationship retreat? Then, our Intensive In-House Option will be ideal as we combine a warm, private and comfortable retreat setting with high impact and customized relationship enrichment experience and take your relationship to new heights in our inviting South Florida home.

In this powerful new Relationship-Coaching format, Dr. Jay and Liseth meet with one couple in the privacy of their home office for a “couples marathon” designed to facilitate important breakthroughs that will resolve problems and/or cause a breakthrough to a new level of Soul-Mating possibility in your relationship.

Our custom designed Intensive In-House Option provides an intimate, condensed and highly focused approach to relationship issues that can help couples move quickly through specific challenges and learn important new skills in a short period of time. In addition, you will also have the opportunity to enjoy some private downtown in a romantic setting to take forward the lessons and breakthroughs you can expect during your private coaching retreat.


Small Group Retreats



Learn the “secrets” of Relationship Mastery and Soul-Mating for Life using research-based tools for building and maintaining intimacy from the comfort of Dr. Jay and Liseth’s serene South Florida home. 

Have you ever planned a wonderful romantic vacation, complete with a lovely room, candle-lit dinners and white sand beaches, only to have your dream become a nightmare when tense quarrels and silence spoil the sunset? Now you can restore your relationship while having a world-class romantic holiday. 

In an exclusive, small-group two-day couples retreat, you’ll learn new skills for deepening intimacy, being fully present, understanding each partners “need template” and how to meet them, become fluent in your partner’s respective love language, learn how to manage conflict to resolution and greater connection, enhance eroticism and sexuality, design a vision for alignment around shared meaning and life dreams and learn how to be “Soul Mates” for life in a private, comfortable, and beautiful setting. 

Our Small Group Retreats are customized empowerment-based communities with a select group of couples committed to the same outcomes you are – having an extraordinary relationship where together we create the conditions for Soul-Mating to come alive!

The learning happens under the guidance of Dr. Jay and Liseth alongside the experiences of other real couples dealing with their relationship challenges and opportunities together so we all learn from one another. 

Each retreat includes a comprehensive science-based Relationship Wellness Assessment, group discussions, live coaching, role-plays, exercises completed with your partner and focused teaching from our highly successful Soul-Mates For Life program curriculum. 

The intimate setting our Small Group Retreats create enable couples to receive the maximum value of personalized, special attention from the Dr. Jay and Liseth while enhancing and restoring their relationship in a safe, supportive team-spirited setting. 

During the retreat, you will learn skills to:

  • Align around a shared vision for designing a relationship of your choosing and your dreams
  • Learn what it takes to “be” and “have” a Soul-Mate 
  • Get clear about what can destroy your relationship and stop Soul-Mating from happening
  • Strengthen your friendship and learn how to bond at deeper levels
  • Increase your “presence” skills and build true intimacy
  • Learn how to communicate about anything and never have Missing Conversations
  • Deepen your understanding, respect, appreciation and fondness for one another
  • Spice up your intimacy and erotic quotient 
  • Transform inevitable relationship conflicts so you can build solid bridges between the two of you
  • Unearth the values and life purpose you want to share as a couple

Dr. Jay and Liseth welcome you to join them in their inviting South Florida home where the retreats take place, and we assist participants to discover nearby beautiful accommodations.  If you wish, you can combine the retreat with a romantic Miami holiday experience as well. 

These workshops have limited attendance. We recommend that you register early.

VIP Platinum Program




For people who expect the best and want a concierge experience by having immediate access to relationship and life coaching, on-demand, we created a very unique experience for the rare client who’s lifestyle and preferences are among the elite. 

The VIP Platinum Program gives you access to Dr. Jay and Liseth in real time and on-demand when your life and situation requires that access.  As a VIP client, you get a private access cell phone number and email address reserved only for this program and have 911 access to us 24/7. 

We take only 3 VIP Platinum Program clients at a time and at this time are full.  If you are interested in this program please contact our office and find out more about future availability.

Fee is payable in advance, good for 30 days, and you get the right of first renewal.